You Don't Have to Lie to Kick It

Well I have been doing some reflecting on my past relationship with Country D. She always had an issue with lying to me about the smallest things to cover up big things. Now two months ago when we were still romantically involved,she was basically falling in love with another woman behind my back. And not just anyone...someone that was both our friend. Needless to say the other person told me and Country D didn't. So we have been trying to work on just being friends. I don't know if that is always possible after you breakup with someone. True some of the guys I dated a long time ago I can still talk to but most of those relationships happened during those weird growing up years where you don't really know yourself anyway. But she continues to lie to me. One day she was sitting next to me and I saw her text the girl that caused all the confusion in our household in the first place.
Now I wasn't mad at the fact that they were talking and the last thing I heard was that we weren't talking to each other but It had come abundantly clear to me days before that they had been talking. And if I ask you a simple question of "Have you talked to her?" shouldn't be able to get a simple and truthful response . Especially if we are trying to gain trust back that had been so bluntly thrown out the window.So I ask again after I have seen the texts and she says so no. Lie number one. So again I am by her phone one morning and I do not condone looking thru people's phones because 9 times out of 10 you are going to find something that is going to make you mad. And it may not always be what you think you are reading but something that is going to be taken in the wrong context.But I didn't have to look because the missed call that was blowing up her phone was from that girl. So again I ask her. "Has she been talking to the girl?" And again I get the reply that no it has been a month since I have talked to her. Now I will give her the fact that she may not have talked to her in Jan when all of this took place but as far as Feb goes...it is a wrap on that. You have been talking to her. And damn near every other day. Lie Number two
So this weekend my friend came to visit and before he got in the car I noticed that the cell phone box that had previously been in her back seat was gone. I asked her had she given it back to the girl because it was hers and she said yes a month ago before all this stuff took place or around that time because that was the last time she had seen her.Lie number three. Now I knew that this was a lie because about a week and half ago I lost my zune(sad face) and I looked in her car and my car for it and the box was still there. Big ass white box. I am not blind nor am i crazy so you just lied to me again. She just does not understand ,everytime I have caught her in a lie it is because I already knew the truth before I asked her the question. It is very hard for me to honestly call someone my friend when they can so easily lie to me. Maybe I just know that unless it is something about my life , I won't lie about it but as far as her being a friend to me she will always lie to me. And I can't trust her to not to. She wonders why i get so mad about lying. I just don't feel that it is right. Especially when it is something pointless.
I told her when I wrote the girl to make amends for the situation. I told her what the girl said. It was no big deal to me. I don't like to hold grudges or stay mad at people for long. So i texted her. Now I could have lied and acted like I hadn't talked to her either but what is the point? Now don't get me wrong I have told little white lies before and never spoke of them again. And I know people probably lie to me all the time. But it still is a pet peeve. And I guess it is when the lie is not really being used for good. If it is something that you know that person is going to find out about and that the lie will make things a whole lot worse then the truth would have I say just go with the truth. "Everything that Happens in the Dark Will Come to the Light".